Supporting Young People

Supporting Young People is a 4-week program for adults to learn how to help young people who are dealing with loss. It consists of four weekly meetings, approximately 90 minutes each with a PowerPoint presentation and time for sharing. Each week there is a homework assignment, which may take an hour to complete. It provides education on children and grief with original photos and stories of Shanti Vani, her family members and friends.


The importance of helping children with loss cannot be emphasized enough, especially in these times when so much has been taken away from them. 

Supporting Young People teaches us how to support young people so they will feel heard and respected.


In this photo Julian is painting an angel statue for a family memorial garden. His baby cousin Loki died when he was four and his baby brother Vegas died when he was seven. Being able to talk openly about death has been important for him.


Please join us for an in-person or Zoom class starting soon. There are scholarships available. 

My Great Grandson, Julian

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At the Gravesite of Loki and Vegas


Tips on Supporting Young People


There are many experiences in life that produce feelings of grief in a child --- the death or loss of a pet, friend, parent or sibling, moving, being teased or bullied --- and there are some actions that help children heal their hearts.


As adults, we have a responsibility to instill in children the ability to have a lifelong, healthy response to grief and to offer them effective tools for dealing with loss.

Some guidelines for adults include:

  • Listen with your heart, not your head.

  • Don't judge, criticize, analyze, advise, or interrupt.

  • Allow emotional expression, all of it.

  • Tell the truth about your own grief. Model honesty.

  • Remember that each person's experience is unique.

  • Be patient. Be quiet. Listen with spaciousness.

  • Allow for sadness and fear as normal and natural.

As parents and educators, we often feel conflicting feelings about the children in our care.


If we want healthy, happy children to grow into healthy, happy adults, we must support them in their grief.


In Supporting Young People, we adults receive the support we need so we can support them well.